tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-83953434851991640212024-02-18T21:12:52.898-05:0010BusyBees9BusyBeeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15244418773637041778noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8395343485199164021.post-29264002006078430562020-11-19T16:45:00.011-05:002020-11-19T17:27:28.515-05:00The Cost of Feeding Our Hive - Tips, tricks and cost of feeding our large family<style class="WebKit-mso-list-quirks-style">
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</style><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhPunnKIvYv28vHQsLw3wsNuUj0KGvKD_fHiqbyQcII636cHxSrc_CL39yNW-Qbk5mpiQUkmgE-lMNv4ZHSJL8wt3gv1NyUWbqxP2BhwiaVD0ROH_RSJ3s_zO-s8vYxxT7mfUzRQ2aZlguA/s1280/Groceries+for+a+Family+of+12.PNG" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1280" data-original-width="1280" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhPunnKIvYv28vHQsLw3wsNuUj0KGvKD_fHiqbyQcII636cHxSrc_CL39yNW-Qbk5mpiQUkmgE-lMNv4ZHSJL8wt3gv1NyUWbqxP2BhwiaVD0ROH_RSJ3s_zO-s8vYxxT7mfUzRQ2aZlguA/s320/Groceries+for+a+Family+of+12.PNG" /></a></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-size: medium;"><span><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span><br /></span></span></span></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: inherit; font-size: medium;"><span><span><span>Feeding a large famil</span></span><span>y is like hosting a party every day and the guests never leave. As you can imagine feeding a family of 12 is expensive! Groceries are our second largest expense after our mortgage. A long time ago, one of our kids told their preschool teacher that my job is going to the grocery store, he was right. One of my job’s in our family is feeding our family healthy food on a tight budget. I wanted to share what a week’s worth of groceries for our family looks like and costs; as well as some tips I use to stretch our budget.</span></span><span> </span></span></div><h4 style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-size: medium;"><span> </span></span></h4><h4 style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-size: medium;"><span>Before I go shopping:</span></span></h4><p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpFirst" style="mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -0.25in;"></p><ul style="text-align: left;"><li><span style="font-size: medium;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; text-indent: -0.25in;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span><span style="font-family: arial; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><span><!--[endif]--></span><span style="text-indent: -0.25in;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">I</span><span style="font-family: arial;"> </span>meal plan for the week – Our meals are simple and don’t vary that much from week to week. I ask for the kids input and I will have our older kids help plan and make a meal. Having a meal plan helps me stick to our budget.</span></span></li></ul><span style="font-size: medium;"><!--[if !supportLists]--></span><p></p><p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpFirst" style="mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -0.25in;"><span style="font-size: medium;"> Here is one of our weekly meal plans:</span></p><p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin-left: 1in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-list: l0 level2 lfo1; text-indent: -0.25in;"><span style="font-size: medium;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: "Courier New",serif; mso-fareast-font-family: "Courier New";">o<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><!--[endif]--><span>Monday – Crockpot Sausage and Peppers with Pasta<o:p></o:p></span></span></p><p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin-left: 1in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-list: l0 level2 lfo1; text-indent: -0.25in;"><span style="font-size: medium;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: "Courier New",serif; mso-fareast-font-family: "Courier New";">o<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><!--[endif]--><span>Tuesday – Taco night – Ground beef tacos with rice and beans<o:p></o:p></span></span></p><p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin-left: 1in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-list: l0 level2 lfo1; text-indent: -0.25in;"><span style="font-size: medium;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: "Courier New",serif; mso-fareast-font-family: "Courier New";">o<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><!--[endif]--><span>Wednesday – Greek Night – grilled chicken, orzo, veggies, hummus and pitas<o:p></o:p></span></span></p><p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin-left: 1in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-list: l0 level2 lfo1; text-indent: -0.25in;"><span style="font-size: medium;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: "Courier New",serif; mso-fareast-font-family: "Courier New";">o<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><!--[endif]--><span>Thursday – Breakfast for dinner - Breakfast casserole and fruit<o:p></o:p></span></span></p><p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin-left: 1in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-list: l0 level2 lfo1; text-indent: -0.25in;"><span style="font-size: medium;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: "Courier New",serif; mso-fareast-font-family: "Courier New";">o<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><!--[endif]--><span>Friday – Make your own pizzas and salad<o:p></o:p></span></span></p><p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-align: left; text-indent: -0.25in;"></p><ul style="text-align: left;"><li><span style="font-size: medium;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; text-indent: -0.25in;"><span style="font-family: arial; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span><span style="font-family: inherit; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"><span>I</span><span> </span></span></span><span style="text-indent: -0.25in;">shop for 1 week at a time. We don’t have the storage space or budget to buy more than a week at a time.<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgxAQ56fiLxg2VnJFTlHIbDZ8gud2T9pb_4aKe27Y72iIGR0etTCSf_2nvUrcS_TBrOt6TqLis8wPM_1Ub7sAnOqxNhhTWtJh5FKv-83vlbbD72E6NX8QZPf2XZgdLmYbhkX-WXv23ges5O/s2016/large+family+pantry.jpg" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2016" data-original-width="1512" height="193" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgxAQ56fiLxg2VnJFTlHIbDZ8gud2T9pb_4aKe27Y72iIGR0etTCSf_2nvUrcS_TBrOt6TqLis8wPM_1Ub7sAnOqxNhhTWtJh5FKv-83vlbbD72E6NX8QZPf2XZgdLmYbhkX-WXv23ges5O/w145-h193/large+family+pantry.jpg" width="145" /></a></div><br /></span></span></li><li><span style="font-size: medium; text-indent: -0.25in;">I clean out the refrigerator and check our pantry that way I am not buying duplicates of items. </span></li><li><span style="font-size: medium;"><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; text-indent: -0.25in;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="text-indent: -0.25in;">I buy store brand whenever possible and sign up for instore rewards card for coupons and often gas savings.</span></span></li><li><span style="font-size: medium; text-indent: -0.25in;">Even though I have a meal plan and a list in my hand, I try and be flexible if there is a big sale on an item.</span></li><li><span style="font-size: medium; text-indent: -0.25in;">I check for reduced items in the produce section (often they just have small blemishes or imperfections and are marked down).</span></li></ul><p></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: medium;">A week’s worth of groceries costs around $550 for us (we rarely eat out so that cost includes breakfast, lunch and dinner for 12 for 7 days). A typical week looks like:</span></p><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-size: medium;"><br /></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-size: medium;">4 gallons of milk</span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-size: medium;">1 tub of spreadable butter</span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-size: medium;">4 sticks of unsalted butter</span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-size: medium;"><span>6 large boxes of cereal<br /></span><span>2 loaves of bread<br /></span><span>36 eggs<br /></span><span>12 indiv cups of yogurt<br /></span><span>15lbs of bananas<br /></span><span>12 lbs of apples<br /></span><span>6lbs of grapes<br /></span><span>large bag of clementines<br /></span><span>2 Cucumbers<br /></span><span>Bag of Bell peppers<br /></span><span>Large bag of carrots<br /></span><span>Large bag of Kale or Arugula<br /></span><span>3 lbs of potatoes <br /></span><span>6lbs of chicken breasts<br /></span><span>3lbs Italian sausage<br /></span><span>6lbs of ground beef<br /></span><span>6lbs of pasta</span></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-size: medium;"><span>3 jars of Marinara Sauce<br /></span><span>Large bag of chicken nuggets<br /></span><span>Large bag of shredded Mexican Cheese<br /></span><span>Large Bag of shredded Mozzerella<br /></span><span>1 lb of cheese slices<br /></span><span>3lbs of lunch meat<br /></span><span>Large box of frozen waffles<br /></span><span>Large bag of pitas or Naan Bread</span></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-size: medium;"><span>Large tub of hummus<br /></span><span>Lots of snacks<br /></span><span>A few treats<br /></span><span>Paper Towels<br /></span><span>Toilet Paper</span></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-size: medium;">* Once a month we will restock cooking oils, spices and baking supplies</span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-size: 14pt;"><br /></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhQHkL2LtWRbeHQkliFjnf9izYggvAwLt9arCP6kqnlBWr5xyntXTvfqlguTDPRfv4WSulOChrV9z6aRhHh8n9oAFofjbhvG5w-HCnu3qfOLEOXxIGMuHC46JBGjE-uSemVLeLEc695zXbt/s2016/large+family+grocery+cart.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1512" data-original-width="2016" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhQHkL2LtWRbeHQkliFjnf9izYggvAwLt9arCP6kqnlBWr5xyntXTvfqlguTDPRfv4WSulOChrV9z6aRhHh8n9oAFofjbhvG5w-HCnu3qfOLEOXxIGMuHC46JBGjE-uSemVLeLEc695zXbt/s320/large+family+grocery+cart.jpg" width="320" /></a></div><span><div style="font-size: 14pt; text-align: left;"><span style="font-size: 14pt;"><br /></span></div><span style="font-size: medium;">We now live in the Pacific Northwest and I have found that produce and meat are a little less expensive than on the East Coast. We are spending about $30 less per week now. We shop at </span></span><span style="font-size: medium;"><a href="https://www.fredmeyer.com" target="_blank">Fred Myers</a><span> (Kroger Brand) and Walmart for groceries and Costco for bulk meats, paper goods, diapers and wipes.</span></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-size: medium;"><br /></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-size: medium;">I would love to know the weekly cost of groceries for your family and any money saving tips you have.</span></div>9BusyBeeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15244418773637041778noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8395343485199164021.post-26211319681364288162020-10-15T12:05:00.001-04:002020-10-15T12:08:51.454-04:00A Club I Never Wanted to Join<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiqq7mQb9Is3DNT-mCqoorwyajvGMnDA7JXQRGrPhzAqDfhLK41h3uqy4F_7jRbgvvTwjY3Pns4MwpKHvfQtF53fz0Y6AvdvM-iVYiBk0XwEVMKvZLRCv2AgtXzO3n9UyYdzRyh2z1ZjI6o/s2016/miscarriage+story.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="Miscarriage club" border="0" data-original-height="2016" data-original-width="1512" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiqq7mQb9Is3DNT-mCqoorwyajvGMnDA7JXQRGrPhzAqDfhLK41h3uqy4F_7jRbgvvTwjY3Pns4MwpKHvfQtF53fz0Y6AvdvM-iVYiBk0XwEVMKvZLRCv2AgtXzO3n9UyYdzRyh2z1ZjI6o/w240-h320/miscarriage+story.jpg" title="Miscarriage Club" width="240" /></a></div><br /><span style="color: #666666; font-family: trebuchet; font-size: medium;">I am a member of several clubs I never wanted to join; lost parent, hyperemesis gravidarum and miscarriage. None of these clubs would you volunteer for, but once in, only your fellow members truly understand your grief and pain.</span><p></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0.0001pt;"><span style="color: #666666; font-family: trebuchet; font-size: medium;"><o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0.0001pt;"><span style="color: #666666; font-size: medium;"><span style="font-family: trebuchet;">15 years ago we lost a baby. It seems like a lifetime ago but also feels like yesterday. I can remember the doctor flippantly and coldly telling us there was no heartbeat and immediately turning off the screen. I can remember how we sobbed. I can remember how kind the nurses and doctor were when I went in to have a D&C. I can remember wanting to reach out to all my friends who had miscarriages before me and apologize for not knowing what to say because I didn’t understand until now. I remember how much the loss effected my husband. I remember how that loss colored every pregnancy afterwards, I don’t think I took a deep breath until the 20 week sonogram for all of my subsequent pregnancies.</span><span style="font-family: trebuchet;"> </span></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0.0001pt;"><o:p><span style="color: #666666; font-family: trebuchet; font-size: medium;"> </span></o:p></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0.0001pt;"><span style="color: #666666; font-family: trebuchet; font-size: medium;">Around our oldest daughter’s first birthday I found out I was pregnant. We had just moved to a new state, I was navigating the first year as a new parent and I had mixed feelings about the news. After the initial shock we were excited and made an appt. for a 10 week sonogram. Our conception and pregnancy with our oldest was extremely easy and we naively thought all would be well. Being in a new state we went to a new OB. She started the sonogram, we saw the baby and she immediately said coldly and unemotionally, “there is no heartbeat.” Bill and I were in shock and maybe more shocked by the tone, it all happened so fast. I wanted the doctor, who was a woman, to say she was sorry. I wanted her to explain what happened, or tell us “why”, but none of that happened. We held each other and cried. The OB came back in and told me I would need a D&C <a href="https://www.acog.org/patient-resources/faqs/special-procedures/dilation-and-curettage" target="_blank">Dilation and Curettage Procedure</a> . Her office scheduled me for the next day and we went home. Our heads were spinning from sadness and unanswered questions.<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0.0001pt;"><o:p><span style="color: #666666; font-family: trebuchet; font-size: medium;"> </span></o:p></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0.0001pt;"><span style="color: #666666; font-family: trebuchet; font-size: medium;">We arranged for my in-laws to watch our daughter and we went in early for the D&C. We got to the hospital and they didn’t have me scheduled until the next day. I was beside myself, the doctor’s office had given us the wrong information. It felt like a kick while we were already down. Everything had happened so quickly the day before that I had so many questions about the baby, could they tell when the baby had died? I had nightmares that the doctor shut off the sonogram so fast that maybe she missed the heartbeat. We were able to schedule a level 2 sonogram that afternoon. The technician and doctor that performed the sonogram were so kind and patient in explaining what we were seeing and that the baby really was gone. <o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0.0001pt;"><o:p><span style="color: #666666; font-family: trebuchet; font-size: medium;"> </span></o:p></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0.0001pt;"><span style="color: #666666; font-family: trebuchet; font-size: medium;">That night, as we grieved, our daughter got really sick and was running a very high fever. We called in some reinforcements and my mom drove 2 hrs to help out. The morning of my D&C my mom was with me in outpatient surgery and Bill was a floor above us in Pediatric Emergency Care with our daughter. It felt surreal and unfair. I can remember how kind all the nurses and surgical staff were to me. I am not sure they would say this in today’s medical environment, but they told me it would all be okay, that I was young and would have more babies. After the D&C we went home. That night we had ice cream sundaes and watched Finding Neverland, probably not the best choice since I sobbed through most of it.<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0.0001pt;"><o:p><span style="color: #666666; font-family: trebuchet; font-size: medium;"> </span></o:p></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0.0001pt;"><span style="color: #666666; font-family: trebuchet; font-size: medium;">The physical recovery from the miscarriage was pretty easy. The mental recovery was much harder. I felt like I was in a fog, just going through the motions and feeling numb. I also felt a lingering guilt, did I DO or NOT DO something that caused the miscarriage. Having our beautiful busy one year old kept me going those weeks right after. The loss really impacted my husband too. I think we were both taken aback at how strong our grief was for a baby we had loved for such a short time. In that time we had already started to dream, would that baby be a boy or girl, would that baby look like me or Bill. In that moment in the doctor’s office when we were told our baby was gone, all those hopes and dreams evaporated so quickly, so coldly and without explanation. I was also surprised by how many people we knew had had miscarriages. After we lost our baby so many friends and aquaintances told us their stories. I got pregnant a few months after our loss. The miscarriage really colored the subsequent pregnancies. I held my breath during the 10 week ultrasounds and really didn’t take a deep breathe until the 20 week sonogram.<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0.0001pt;"><o:p><span style="color: #666666; font-family: trebuchet; font-size: medium;"> </span></o:p></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0.0001pt;"><span style="color: #666666; font-family: trebuchet; font-size: medium;">At the time we had HMO health insurance and we didn’t have a lot of options for Obstetrics. When we spoke with a different doctor, we had the opportunity to tell her our previous experience and I felt like she was genuinely sorry. It was nice to be able to talk about it and we’ve generally had excellent care. We’re much more knowledgeable these days and one of the lessons we learned from this experience was to be an advocate for yourself and not be afraid to express when you’re unhappy, unsure, or need more information. It might make the difference in your mental state to feel like you have all the information necessary to care for yourself physically. <o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0.0001pt;"><o:p><span style="color: #666666; font-family: trebuchet; font-size: medium;"> </span></o:p></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0.0001pt;"><span style="color: #666666; font-family: trebuchet; font-size: medium;">To all my fellow miscarriage club members; I see you. I am so sorry for your loss. You are not alone. Your grief and sorrow are real. No one should ever tell you how to grieve; this will look different for each of us. Support your partner and vice a versa. Reach out and talk to others who have lost a baby. 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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">My husband and I have a couple of rules when he is traveling. If he is gone more than 3 days it is going to be messy when he gets home. We also have a text only rule when he is away. I don't really want to hear about his nice hotel room or client dinners while I am changing my 10th stinky diaper of the day and negotiating with a tyrannical three year old. He knows if I call him there is an emergency.</span><br />
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">1. Have an easy meal plan</span></b><br />
<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">I do the meal planning and grocery shopping, but my husband is the cook. He will often meal prep some meals on the weekend before he leaves. A tray of baked ziti and a breakfast casserole can be a life saver. I also plan easy meals that I know the kids will eat and not complain about it. I make sure I have plenty of food in the house before he leaves. No dinner plan and hangry kids is a recipe for disaster.</span><br />
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">2. Have 2 days worth of laundry done</span></b><br />
<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">With 10 kids I do a load or two of laundry everyday, but I make sure I have two days worth of clean clothes for the kids as the week starts. There is nothing worse then trying to get everyone to the bus stop solo and the kids don't have pants, the blue shirt for field day etc...clean.</span><br />
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">3. Do school/lunch/activities prep the night before</span></b><br />
<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">This is a hard one, especially when I am beat at night, but the extra 10 minutes is worth it to not have an ugly morning. I make sure everything is signed that needs to be signed, homework is completed and lunches are prepped. My big kids help to do their own lunches.</span><br />
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">4. Set up carpools, ask for help and delegate</span></b><br />
<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">When I know my husband is traveling, I make sure to look at the week's schedule and set up as many carpools for the kids activities as we can. </span><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">I have a large whiteboard calendar in our kitchen that has all of the kids activities for the current month. </span><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">We are very lucky to have families that will help us getting kids to and from events. We live in an area where many of our friends have spouses that travel or are military and we support each other. I also have my older kids help out by unloading the dishwasher, dinner prep/clean up and reading bedtime stories to younger siblings.</span><br />
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">5. Hire a babysitter during the dinner and activities rush</span></b><br />
<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">We have a couple of nights a week where we have 4-5 kids practices on the same night all within a 2 hour window and some later evening practices for older kids. When I am solo on those nights I have our good family friend and long time babysitter come and help me. In our house 5-8pm is the "witching time" I call it. Trying to get dinner on the table, kids out the door for events, and managing meltdowns is challenging. If I can have a second set of hands during that time it makes the evening go better for everyone. We have a local university near us and have found fantastic babysitters in the past advertising there.</span><br />
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">6. If you can swing it, belong to a gym</span></b><br />
<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">My gym membership has saved me many times. Being on one income our budget is extremely tight, we do not have money for any extras. Our gym membership has been 100% worth the money. We belong to <a href="https://www.lifetime.life/?gclid=EAIaIQobChMI5bnclrCA4AIVB4vICh0z4g__EAAYASAAEgIf6PD_BwE&utm_source=google&utm_medium=paid_search&utm_campaign=maryland-brand&utm_audience=brand-life_time_fitness&utm_term=lifetime%20fitness&market=midatlanticarea&ef_id=EAIaIQobChMI5bnclrCA4AIVB4vICh0z4g__EAAYASAAEgIf6PD_BwE:G:s&s_kwcid=AL!3651!3!303444865915!e!!g!!lifetime%20fitness" target="_blank">Lifetime Fitness</a>. The child care center staff is awesome and are so good to my kids. Some weeks when my husband has been away it is the only hour I get to myself and the only chance I have to shower. When we have had power outages or snow days and I have been solo we head to the gym.</span><br />
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<b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">7. Be kind to yourself</span></b><br />
<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">When I am by myself for the week, there are certain things that aren't going to get done around the house. The kids aren't going to get showers every night, if everyone is melting down one of the younger kids may not make it to soccer practice that night. I will use paper plates for easier clean up and the kids may have chicken nuggets or cereal for dinner twice that week. The clean laundry isn't going to make it off the back of the couch. It is all okay.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">My husband's work trips are usually 2-3 days long, with the longest ones being 5 days. Right now he is traveling several times a month. Managing kids solo during the week is much easier then the weekend. Weekends are tough and so is the summer. No matter how much I plan things happen; sick kids, bad weather, homework projects kids forgot about. Recently, my husband was away and half of us including me came down with the stomach bug. In that case you go into survival mode, the kids eat pizza and cereal and watch extra show time.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">I get a taste of solo parenting several times a month and it is hard, single parents and military/government/shift work spouses are my heroes.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">What are some of your tips for parenting solo?</span>9BusyBeeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15244418773637041778noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8395343485199164021.post-68604385021223270082018-09-05T21:39:00.000-04:002018-09-06T13:59:21.877-04:00Lunchbox Love: School lunch ideas, tips and tricks<div style="color: #454545; font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 12px; line-height: normal;">
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;"><span style="color: #454545;">I have many parenting weaknesses but one of my strengths is making school lunches. I have been making them for 12 years and have another 12 plus to go. It drives my hubby batty but I do make individual lunches for each kid. Usually the fruit/vegetable and treat are similar but the main part is different. It is a long school day, I want my kids to eat their lunch, so I pack things I know they will eat. If they are having a tough day I want them to know that at lunch their favorite sandwich and treat is waiting for them. It is like a hug from me. Disclaimer: By May everyone gets the same lunch and it doesn't look nearly as pretty as the first week of school!</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">The picture above shows some of my kids favorite lunches.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Top Left: Cheese quesadillas (I make them in the morning then wrap them in tinfoil), carrots, and gummy bears </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Top Right: Cheese, Crackers and Pepperoni (I use silicone reusable cupcake liners to keep them separated), grapes and carrots</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Some other favorites are: chicken nuggets (I cook them in the morning and wrap them in tin foil), lunch meat and cheese roll ups, salads and burritos.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Most mornings I feel like Fred the Baker from the old Dunkin Donut Commercials..."Time to make the lunches"</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">I want to share one of my favorite lunch tools - <a href="http://www.easylunchboxes.com/" target="_blank">easylunchboxes</a> bento boxes. A friend introduced them to me over 3 years ago and they are awesome! The ones that I use have 3 compartments and a lid. They are sturdy, dishwasher safe (seriously, they hold up really well in the dishwasher) and only 2 pieces!! I love that the lid stays on but the kids can still get it off at lunch time without struggling. I also love that it cuts down on our use of plastic sandwich bags. My favorite part is that a set of 4 is only $13.95!! This is not an ad or sponsored post, I use them everyday for my kids school lunches. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">My tips and tricks for no lunch drama for mama in the morning are:</span></div>
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<li style="color: #454545; line-height: normal; margin: 0px;"><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Get the kids involved. My older girls make their own lunches the night before and my younger kids let me know what they want and pick out their snacks and treats.</span></li>
<li style="color: #454545; line-height: normal; margin: 0px;"><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Have some options left for the end of the week when the groceries are running low, i.e. bagels and cream cheese can work as a sandwich, oranges when the strawberries run out.</span></li>
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9BusyBeeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15244418773637041778noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8395343485199164021.post-90748827458034817972018-06-16T20:16:00.004-04:002018-06-17T06:52:42.558-04:00The Last Picture<div dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.3800000000000001; margin-bottom: 10pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;">
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<span style="white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">2018 marks 9 years since my dad passed away. I can’t believe it has been that long ago, some days it feels like yesterday and other times it feels like a lifetime ago. Losing my dad has had a huge impact on who I am as a mother.</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">I miss my dad every day. He was only able to meet 3 of my 9 babies. Shortly after he passed away we found out that I was pregnant. We did not find out the gender of the baby and when the baby was a boy, I sobbed. Our first boy! I think everyone in the delivery room cried with us. I knew it was my dad sending me a sign, that he was still with us in a different way. We named his middle name after my dad and Roo is so much like him. He has his smile and the same twinkle in his blue eyes, thankfully not my dad’s ears, just kidding dad. Several of my kids have my dad's mannerisms and it makes my heart happy. Since my dad's passing he has become a cross between a saint and a super hero to my kids. My dad was not perfect, but he was a good kind person. I love that my kids ask questions about him and that I can share stories about him. My dad was an only child as well and I am not sure what he would have thought of our big loud crazy family, but I would give anything to have one more day with him and have him meet all my kiddos.</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">When you lose a parent you become part of a club that you would never ask to be a member of. The grief I feel from losing my dad is always with me. It has changed over the years and changed me. The loss of a loved one is not something that you get through or over, it is always with you in some form. Right after my dad passed was the loneliest I have ever felt. My husband and friends were wonderfully supportive, but being an only child I did not have any siblings to share the grief or burden of helping to pick up the pieces. In hind sight that experience may have set me on the course for having a large family. I know having siblings doesn't guarantee that you will have their support or a wonderful relationship with them, but I am so happy that my kids have each other.</span></span><br />
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<span style="white-space: pre-wrap;">My dad always loved birds. The house I grew up in had big sliding doors that looked out onto a deck. My dad would sit on the couch doing a crossword puzzle and </span><span style="white-space: pre-wrap;">watch the birds at the bird feeder. His favorites were the cardinals and blue jays. Over the past nine years I have often seen cardinals and think that they are a sign from my dad. A friend who also lost her dad posted this, "A cardinal is a representative of a loved one who has passed. When you see one, it means they are visiting you. They usually show up when you </span><span style="white-space: pre-wrap;">most need them or miss them..."</span></span></div>
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9BusyBeeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15244418773637041778noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8395343485199164021.post-66366595614224372442018-05-05T21:50:00.001-04:002018-05-08T15:04:43.290-04:00A Truthful look at Postpartum - 9 Months In/9 Months Out with baby #9<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody>
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">My body has carried and delivered 9 babies and 1 angel baby in 13 years. I am proud of every stretch mark and excess fold of skin. </span><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">I had hypermesis gravidarium in 6 out of my 9 pregnancies. I have had countless bags of IV fluids, Zofran pumps, iron infusions and 2 blood transfusions during my pregnancies.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Just like every pregnancy can be different so is the recovery. This postpartum recovery has been my hardest. I had physical postpartum issues that I haven’t had before. Thankfully my midwife suggested pelvic physical therapy which healed all those issues for me (<a href="http://9busybees.blogspot.com/2018/04/postpartum-pelvic-physical-therapy.html">see previous blog post</a>). My youngest 3 kiddos were 2 and under which I think also added to a difficult recovery.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Emotionally it has been hard. Our sweet 9th is our last baby and I hadn’t anticipated how hard all those “lasts” would be. </span><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">I suffered from postpartum depression for the FIRST time after baby number 9. It took me awhile to figure out what it was. Not having it before, it was not on my radar that I would have it this time. I am on a low dose of medication and feeling much better. </span><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;"><b>Postpartum is beautiful and transformative but is also challenging and messy.</b> The hardest part about postpartum issues (physical and mental health related) is that as moms we have to diagnosis ourselves, acknowledge it and seek help, all while taking care of our kids. One of my challenges was once I figured out I had postpartum depression, I didn't have a primary care doctor to go and see. My OB office had been my "primary care" doctors for the past several years. Thankfully I found a wonderful nurse practitioner who helped me. I wish there were more postpartum resources and care for moms in the U.S.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Being a mom of 9 doesn’t mean I am super human, I make mistakes and learn new parenting things everyday. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">After I healed from my physical postpartum issues I hit the gym. Working out is definitely my sanity. With a husband that travels often, going to the gym may be the only hour I have that week by myself and to shower. The gym I go to has a fantastic child care center. The other change I made was in my eating. I was struggling with low energy and extreme fatigue. I was desperate to try anything that would help. I did Whole30 in March and I could feel a change in my energy level almost immediately. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Being an only child I am still in awe of this beautiful family we have created. Thank you to my amazing hubby and friends that have helped me through these past 9 months. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">I have had 9 kids in 13 years, my last 5 in 6 years and my last 2 babies were 11 months apart. I recovered quickly after all of my deliveries. Let’s be honest, I have had a good run. I could tell that something wasn’t right after my 9th baby was born in July. I was feeling vaginal/pelvic pressure, like I was still pregnant and felt like I needed to pee ALL THE TIME. I chalked it up to having a lot of kids and figured that it would get better, it didn't. For my birthday in September, my best friend who is a personal trainer, treated me to a training session. I was about 10 weeks postpartum at the time. I had been much slower to work out after this last baby, things just didn’t feel right. While I was working out with my friend, she had me do some body weight squats and I felt like my insides were falling out from pressure. When I did planks she asked me to tighten my core and I literally was trying so hard and couldn’t tighten anything. My abdomen muscles were jello. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">I had my post delivery appointment with my midwife, Amanda, that next week. I told her how I was feeling and then after the exam she told me that I had a severely weakened pelvic floor, a prolapsed bladder and level 3 diastasis recti. It made total sense with how I had been feeling, but now what? I had never had any recovery issues in the past. I had heard of all those terms but had to look them up after my appointment. Postpartum diastasis recti is when the abdominal muscles separate during pregnancy. Pregnancy and childbirth can weaken the muscles and connective tissue in the pelvic area. A prolapsed bladder is when the vaginal wall is too weak to hold up the bladder and it droops down into the vagina. I kept asking Amanda, this is going to get better right, RIGHT? She never said yes, just we’ll see. I had a neighbor that had to have surgery on her prolapsed bladder and it was a rough recovery, she couldn’t lift anything for weeks. I have 3 kids 2 years and under, how would that work. My midwife suggested that I try physical therapy first. I got the referral and called right away. Anyone that knows me, knows I am horrible about self care, with 9 kids, my needs are last. But this time I called right away, I was feeling miserable and really wanted to try the physical therapy route to see if I could avoid surgery.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">The physical therapy place, <a href="http://www.ssrehab.com/">Sport and Spine Rehab - Chiropractic and Physical Therapy Clinic</a>, was close by and I was able to get in quickly. I really had no idea what type of exercises I would be doing, I was definitely nervous. First I met with Dr. Tiffanie Le, she was fabulous and outlined that I would be working on strenthing my core muscles in the hopes that by strengthing my pelvic floor, it would pull everything back up again, in particular my bladder. That first session I was a little self conscious, but quickly shed that. For the diastasis recti they taught me how to roll to my side then use my arms to push up versus doing a sit up, which was ugly for me anyway right now. Then they proceeded to take me through a series of core strenthing and breathing exercises. They would have me start with a warm up, like the Bruegger Postural Relief then work on the core exercises.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">With 9 kids and a husband that travels I was only able to make it to therapy 2 x a week. Most of the exercises I was able to do at home, which I tried to do several times a week. Sport and Spine Rehab had great hours including evening hours and they were also very accommodating and let me bring my new baby with me to appointments. Those first few weeks the exercises were really challenging. I am an active person, but the concentration that it took me to tighten my core and squeeze my pelvic floor muscles was intense. I would leave sweating. 5 weeks into physical therapy I started to feel a change. My frequency/urgency to pee was less, the pelvic pressure I was feeling was less. My core muscles were weak but I could feel them start to tighten.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">I continued my sessions 1-2 x a week for the next 4 weeks. I was feeling so much better. I had a follow up appointment with my midwife in December. I was really hoping that how I was feeling would translate into a good internal exam. I was holding my breath literally and figuratively during the exam. The physical therapy had worked! My bladder was no longer prolapsed, my pelvic wall was much stronger and my diastsis recti had gone from a 3 finger separation to a 1! Woohoo! I was estatic! If things had not worked out and I was told I would need surgery we would have figured out a way to make it work, but I was so excited to not have to go down that path. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">The next day I had an appointment with Dr. Le and her staff, I had graduated from their program. They walked me through some more advanced core exercises that I could do on my own. I truly liked everyone that I had worked with there. They were all kind, proffessional and encouraging. They all gave me hugs as I walked out.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">I am continuing to do the core exercises a couple of times a week and will do that for the forseeable future. My core strength is still not where I would like it to be, but I am working on making it stronger every week. My prolapsed bladder issues have been resolved and I can make it through a hard workout without feeling I needed to use the bathroom 10 times.</span><br />
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<li><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">All of these pregnancy/postpartum complications I experienced can happen whether it is your first or ninth baby. My guess is that I had all of these issues after my seventh and eighth babies but since I was pregnant again so quickly they were not caught. </span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">I saw plenty of pregnant women at Sport and Spine Rehab strengthing their core. I wish I would have done that. </span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">I think that most moms would benefit from pelvic floor/core strengthening even without an official diagnosis.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">I am so grateful that my midwife suggested physical therepy first versus surgery first. </span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">I also should have been more timely with my post delivery 6 week check up, by the time I was seen I was 10-11 weeks postpartum. </span></li>
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<li><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">If your OB recommends physical therapy make sure that you look for a Chiropractic/Physical Therapy place that is comfortable and knowledgeable working with postpartum moms. </span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">You will want a program that emphasizes building back up the core muscles through core muscle exercises, breathing training, and postural training. All 3 will work to re-engage the pelvic floor. Make sure that you ask questions about the purpose of the program and exercises that you are put on. You want to make sure they are solving for what you need strengthened. </span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Do not be discouraged by this diagnosis, it will take time and hard work to heal </span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Slowing things down in the postpartum period will help you return to your desired level of activity with less risk of injury. During this time your body relearns to engage proper muscles to help you move better when you do return to your sport/activity. </span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Once you are on a program be compliant and consistent so you can get results.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Keep in mind that not every pregnancy and birth is the same and the amount of activity prior to and during the pregnancy affects recovery.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">All mommas, prenatal and postpartum, can benefit from core training and exercise, you don't need to wait to be diagnosed with a condition or have pain to start rehab and therapy for your core and pelvic floor.</span></li>
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<i><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif; font-size: x-small;">- Webster certified (a chiropractic technique commonly used with pregnant patients; website for more info can be found here: <a data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?hl=en&q=https://icpa4kids.com/training/webster-certification/webster-technique/&source=gmail&ust=1525136807969000&usg=AFQjCNHqaeY5sQznKfSyBp7crLyGSB_clA" href="https://icpa4kids.com/training/webster-certification/webster-technique/" style="color: #1155cc;" target="_blank">https://icpa4kids.com/<wbr></wbr>training/webster-<wbr></wbr>certification/webster-<wbr></wbr>technique/</a> ) </span></i></div>
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<i><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif; font-size: x-small;">- attended the Birthfit Professional Seminar (<a data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?hl=en&q=https://birthfit.com/&source=gmail&ust=1525136807969000&usg=AFQjCNFaaDyDFZgY9BVQNbXYNFxhS65c0w" href="https://birthfit.com/" style="color: #1155cc;" target="_blank">https://birthfit.com/</a>) </span></i></div>
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<i><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif; font-size: x-small;">- in the process of acquiring her birth doula certification through DONA International (<a data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?hl=en&q=https://www.dona.org/&source=gmail&ust=1525136807969000&usg=AFQjCNEuEDzOnCRsNCfWBUdPAsf3KAJqvA" href="https://www.dona.org/" style="color: #1155cc;" target="_blank">https://www.dona.org/</a>)</span></i></div>
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">This is not a political post this is a human post. I am not a vocal person politically. I have never gone to a rally, march or protest before this March. I am ashamed to say that unless it is happening at my kitchen table I may not know it is going on. These shootings that have become common place are affecting all of our families. Gun violence does not discriminate based on political parties it affects us all. After each of the school shootings I have felt so helpless to make a difference and to voice my request for change. Our hearts have broken with each life that has been lost. </span>As a mother I want to protect my children and all children. Every victim of gun violence is someone's baby. After the Parkland shootings I cried and felt outrage, but I still didn’t know how I could help. As soon as I heard about the March I wanted to go, but with 9 kids nothing is easy. I was on the fence about it till the day before, I talked with my husband and he said I really want you three to go, we’ll figure out the logistics. Both of us feel really strongly about protecting all lives with more common sense gun laws. My oldest daughter was really excited we were going. She had participated in two student led walk outs at her secondary school in remembrance of the Parkland students. She immediately set to work making beautiful posters and ribbons for us to wear. My 11 year old was a little quieter about it. She asked lots of questions about logistics and how big the crowds would be and if we would be safe. That right there is their two personalities in a nutshell. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">We then found our space in the crowd and waited for the March to start. It was overwhelming how many people were there - students, families, all races and ages. It was a beautiful sight. We spent all morning just looking at all the different signs and shirts.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Once the program started we were all mesmerized. Each student that spoke was so awesome and powerful. Topics that I stumble and stutter over they spoke so eloquently and full of passion. Their stories were heartbreaking. We were standing next to several families from Florida. They were in the same school district as MSD and had cancelled their spring break plans so they could attend. Two girls in front of us were recent graduates from MSD. They knew these students speaking, they knew their families. We all cried together, cheered together and sang together. The pleas and cries for change from the students and the crowd, makes me hopeful that change will come. When the March was done, everyone respectfully filed out together. As we were leaving a person started the chant, “tell me what democracy looks like” and the answer back was, “this is what democracy looks like”. There were almost a million people at the March all peacefully coming together asking for a change.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">"The March was empowering and inspirational. All the students that spoke were amazing but the three that really spoke to me were Edna Chavez, Emma Gonzalez and Yolanda Renee King. Edna Chavez's speech showed me that gun violence is not a new problem. Yolanda Renee King's speech showed me that that youth of our country are stepping up to change things. Our generation is going to be a great generation." KB, age 12</span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;"><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #222222;">"The energy is what made the environment boom, vibrant signs and people shouting made Pennsylvania Avenue light up. We were all there for the same reason, and for that it felt as if we were gathering with family. There were people from all over the country flying and driving in to make their voices heard. The most heart stopping moment was when D'Angelo McDade asked everyone who has been impacted by gun violence to raise their hands. Hands all around me were raised high. I am lucky enough to not have any encounters with guns or gun violence. The March made me realize how privileged I am." </span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">“Immediately after the shooting on February 14th at Marjory Douglas High School, the Parkland high school students took America by storm. As soon as I heard that they were organizing the March for Our Lives I knew I had to attend. Luckily, a generous network of alumni organized two buses to make the treck down from my school in Vermont. </span><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">After spending weeks leading up to the March as a student leader in the efforts towards gun control reform in my community, I was excited to talk with other students around the country on what they were doing in their hometowns. I heard stories, similar to my own, of students organizing walkouts, lobbying legislators, and having discussions at their highs schools. Right off the bat, I was amazed to see the turnout. I wasn't sure what to expect in terms of numbers, but after seeing photos of Pennsylvania Avenue packed with marchers I was in awe. I was lucky enough to be right by the stage. From start to finish the program they had arranged had me on an emotional rollercoaster. One minute I was in tears and the next I had a smile from ear-to-ear. The level of eloquence each speaker had — despite their age — was outstanding and as I rewatch the videos on Facebook I still get goosebumps each time. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Although Emma Gonzalez took my breathe away with her speech and Yolanda Renee King and Naomi Wadler restored my faith in young people, the speech that resonated with me the most was delivered by Cameron Kasky. He said, "the march is not the climax of this movement, it is the beginning". So many critics believe that this March is the end of our fight, but this generation will stop at nothing to rid this nation of the vicious cycle of mass shootings we have fallen into. The underlying message of this March was to educate yourself, use your voice, and vote. As a seventeen-year-old eager to get into the polling stations I could not have been more pleased with their emphasis on this as voting is how we can be the change we want to see in our country. Let's vote them out! “ </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">“I was blown away by the effort that must have gone into organizing this event - as a teacher I was inspired to see teenagers—students no different than my own apart from the tragedy they experienced firsthand—take on an event of this magnitude. And it was amazing! And yet as a mom I was saddened because here were kids so boldly standing up to adults begging for protection and safety that adults had failed to provide. We shouldn’t have to rely on kids to spread this message; they should be relying on us.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">One of the most heartwarming and heartbreaking parts of the afternoon was seeing how the Parkland students had reached out to student leaders from other communities afflicted by gun violence. Living in the community we live in makes it easy to forget that we are comfortably safe—our kids don’t need to feel fear leaving their homes. The Parkland students reminded everyone that gun violence is more than just the school shootings that make national news - it’s also the shootings that minority communities experience on a much too regular basis.” Katy, Mom of 3</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">“I am generally very quiet when it comes to voicing my political views. Usually I can see and appreciate both sides of the fence on any matter, but changing these antiquated gun laws doesn’t seem to me an issue that can be reasonably justified without some significant change in policy. I have never marched or protested anything, but when I read the sign at the March, "It is so bad, even the introverts are here”, I thoughts, “yes, that’s me”! I hate making a racket, but please, please do something so we can better protect our children and put them on the school bus each day without this horrific fear in the back of our minds. Enough is enough.” Kara, Mom of 3</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">In the face of the issues of gun violence and legislation, I have often felt small, disconnected and powerless. Walking east across 86th Street to join the March south along Central Park West, I could feel the energy and see the crowd gathered - thousands of people, each each one the embodiment of a voice and a vote and a frustration with the status quo. Each person chose that morning to walk the city blocks, to make signs, to stand in the sun, to bring their kids/their friends/themselves. The March in New York City was just one part of a global chorus - connected and powerful. I was proud to add my voice and say enough. Kristin, Mom of 2 </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">For me, the March was not about politics. It was about teaching my kids valuable life lessons. If you feel strongly about something, stand up for it. If you see an injustice, stand up to it. If you want change, lend your voice to it, and if possible in person. I wanted my kids to see that regardless of age and socioeconomic background that we all have a voice that we need to use. As a mother I was so proud of the students who organized and spoke at the March. I am so honored that I could take my two oldest daughters and that they could see and hear first hand these students stories and their call to action. Two of the signs that I saw that really stuck with me, were “When our children are acting like leaders and our leaders are acting like children, it is time for a change” and “Teach your parents well”. My hope is that in the not to distant future I will be talking to my kids about all the good change that has happened.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "calibri";"><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif; white-space: pre-wrap;">The kids had a rainy day off from school and I had planned to take them to a local museum. We pulled into the parking lot and it was packed. I was solo with all the kids and I didn’t want to fight the crowds and be a wreck about losing sight of anyone. The kids were super disappointed, I pulled out of the parking lot with 4 kids crying. I quickly came up with a plan B, there was a local mall close by that was never crowded. I was just looking for an indoor place where everyone could stretch their legs. We hardly ever go shopping at malls and I realized that I could count on one hand how many times my littles had been to a mall. </span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif; font-style: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">We headed for the indoor play area in the food court and the littles played. Next to the play area was a carousel. I had planned on spending a little money for parking at the museum and didn’t use it. I made a quick decision and bought 7 of the kids tickets for a ride. You would have thought it was Christmas, the kids were so excited! For that 1 minute ride they smiled, laughed and waved. Instead of being in a mall food court, we were transported to Funland at Rehoboth Beach, where I used to ride the carousel as a kid.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;"><span style="background-color: transparent; font-style: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">It was so sweet and sad at the same time. Raising a large family we say no almost all the time to extras and treats. We literally don’t have money for anything beyond the necessities. </span><span style="white-space: pre-wrap;">My kids will always have hand me down clothes, shoes and toys, they will never have the newest or shiniest things. A</span><span style="white-space: pre-wrap;"> trip out for ice cream for us costs what some families spend on a dinner out. I hope one day they will look back and see that all the sacrifices were worth it. Even though they didn’t get to go to amusement parks </span><span style="white-space: pre-wrap;">or out to dinner often, they have 8 other people that will love them and have their back no matter where they go and what they do. We spend our Friday nights having movie night at home or playing flag football in the front yard, on weekends we go to local parks and free museums, I hope those memories will stay with them. I love that they truly appreciate when we get to say “yes” to that rare treat.</span></span></div>
<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif; white-space: pre-wrap;">I will remember that today, I got to say “yes” and it was awesome!</span><span id="docs-internal-guid-91a39210-2243-2f51-7c87-8865070ddb1b"></span>9BusyBeeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15244418773637041778noreply@blogger.com11tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8395343485199164021.post-40480624680501585892018-02-12T14:54:00.000-05:002019-02-28T11:58:50.134-05:00Welcome to Our Hive<div>
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Want to know what it is like to have 10 children 14 years old and under? Come and check out our hive! This blog is a window into our busy lives raising a large family. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">I am an only child and always wanted siblings. When my husband Bill and I got married we wanted a big family, but never put a number on it. Consciously or unconsciously, I created my own army.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">I have been thinking about starting a blog for awhile, but I was afraid to put our lives out there. When I was looking online for families like us, I couldn’t find one that was really like ours. We are the family next door who happen to have 10 children. We are not picture perfect, far from it, and my kids don’t wear matching outfits. I am usually, ok almost always dressed in gym clothes covered in baby spit up, other kids’ breakfasts, dog hair and no make up. Our kids go to public school and play lots of sports and other activities. We have our share of challenges and tears, but also a whole lot of love and laughter! Our life is busy, loud, messy, hard and AWESOME. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Here are some things to know about me:</span></div>
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<li style="color: #454545; line-height: normal; margin: 0px;"><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Yes, I drive a 15 passenger bus (It is a cool one, but not quite as cool as Ms. Frizzle's)</span></li>
<li style="color: #454545; line-height: normal; margin: 0px;"><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">We have 6 girls and 3 boys (all singles) – Bill is terrified of having 6 girls with PMS</span></li>
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<li style="color: #454545; line-height: normal; margin: 0px;"><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">In 6 out of my 9 pregnancies I had Hyperemesis Gravidarum– meaning I had severe morning sickness and other complications the entire pregnancies</span></li>
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">My goal in starting this blog was to share a glimpse into our lives raising a large family. I wanted to document this unique experience for my children and for the blog to be an outlet for me. We have an amazing support group of friends and family, but raising a large family can be a lonely island sometimes. I am looking forward to connecting with other moms (new and experienced moms of small and large families) sharing our experiences, learning from each other and supporting each other.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">As soon as people find out I have 10 kids I get asked lots of questions (some very inappropriate ones too). Many of my posts are inspired by those questions, future posts will include cost of feeding a big family, what type of car we have, and how we manage to keep our sanity. I am not a photographer, most of the pictures on the blog will be pictures I take on my phone. I am not a professional writer either but I feel I have a story to tell.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">This is our real life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Whether you have one kiddo or 12 kiddos, we all have similar challenges and triumphs, ours are just multiplied.</span></div>
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